So there's an entry of her telling about relationship thinghy. Really, I faced the same scenario as her when friends put my 'love-life' as their look up direction book for guideline. Alamak!
Your life is written by Allah, not by some fairytales story
Betul tu. Semua Allah tetapkan, Allah punya takdir, Allah Tuhan Esa mentadbir seluruh alam..
Recently I advised some of my closed friends who found them selves broken hearted, dumped and da da di yada~ Thou I am 120% positive sure sucks at giving advise ESPECIALLY relationship. Darlings, not because we end up marrying each other the ups and downs have stopped. Every married couple will face the same situation sometimes and even with new one! Not just some new love birds. The phase of knowing each other is the process of taking you to the next level. If you do not try to work it out, you never will in future but end up fighting for decades! (hiperbola sangat)
Personally, I am myself the most 'trouble maker' partner ever. I use my sensitivity more than my brains when handling my love-life. But Arief always fit in and fill up part of me. Perhaps he is all this while a perfect match for me (beraninya cakap macam tu!) or maybe he is kan? What can I conclude from not-so-long-educational-entry I'm typing in right now...is to appreciate. Don't simply giving up, or came out with 'this won't work out between us anymore, lets give us some time'. Its just not right.
The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found .
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO..
(BSM)
As for reminder for myself as well. I love Arief for who he really was or were or is. Somehow, he complete the missing part of me. Thou I hate your ciggar baby (noted ye please!) but your love and hardship to keep it for us make me never stop to complete you too. May you lead me to 'Raudhah'.
Been waiting for you calls from Madinah, then you finally called and and ... Raysha je dapat abaya? Ibu? Wuwuwuwu kasih berubah~ joke. Have fun there sayang. InshaAllah I'll update about your little girl tomorrow (sebab hari ni mama atas tak bagi report lagi macam mana behavior dia). But she always a good girl. Maaacaamm Ibu!
The best is yet to come
CikPuan Shukriah Jasni
